This is a great read because it talks about what shame is, how it affects children, and why we need to remove shaming language and behaviors from our weak repertoires. It's right in line with Brené Brown's research on shame (follow her! She is so good!).

"Big, toxic shame is unspoken, secretive and destructive. It wounds us and ultimately it can wound our sense of self. ...(shame) can underpin the decisions we make and the way we respond to all sorts of situations." education writer Linda Stade says.

"Most of this shame-wounding happens when we are kids and it is most often dealt out by those we love."

So many of us have participated in unintentional shaming. Do you recognize any of these comments: “How could you?” “I’m so disappointed in you.” "What were you thinking?"

Read more here about the damage shame can do, and most importantly how we can repair with a child we may have shamed.

photo: Shutterstock, via LindaStade.com