Ozan Varol writes a nice thinker on really connecting and engaging with your kids. When your child gets home from school, try: "How were you helpful today?" Here's a teaser from the piece:

"I’m a professor and, over the past seven years, I’ve learned a few things for encouraging students to think differently.

"What follows is a list of seven questions parents typically ask their children. I’ll explain why parents should stop asking these questions and what they should ask instead."

What he suggests respects the child's ideas and contributes to a growth mindset.